About the Intimacy Language Test
In this intimacy quiz, imagine receiving each gesture from a partner and rate how much it would help you feel close or appreciated. Praise, Presence, Touch, Care in action, Thoughtful tokens, Feeling desired and Shared adventure each have three questions. The scores are independent, so more than one theme can matter. This original questionnaire focuses on receiving affection; it does not measure what you tend to give, and it is not the official Love Language quiz. The result offers specific gestures to discuss rather than a rule about what a relationship needs.
How your result is calculated
Each question uses five ordered answers, scored from zero to four. The labels match the question: interest, frequency, comfort or preference. Reverse-keyed items, where present, invert that scale. Each dimension averages its answered items and converts the mean to a 0-100 score. Skipped questions do not count as disagreement, and categories without answers are left unscored. The headline follows the specific rules for this quiz.
A percentage summarizes your responses to this question set. It is not a percentile against other visitors. KinkyAtlas does not have a population comparison dataset, and we do not invent one.
Read all 21 questions
- Your partner telling you one specific thing they admire about you?
- Hearing that they noticed how hard you worked today?
- Being told what they loved about the night you just spent together?
- Your partner putting their phone face down while you talk about your day?
- One evening a week that belongs to the two of you, no exceptions?
- Your partner asking a follow-up question because they were actually listening?
- A long hug the moment you walk through the door?
- Their hand finding yours in the middle of an ordinary conversation?
- Cuddling naked with no plan for it to lead anywhere?
- Your partner quietly taking over a chore when you’re exhausted?
- Your favorite drink appearing next to you without you asking?
- Them remembering exactly what you need after a bad day, and doing it?
- A tiny gift that only makes sense because of an inside joke?
- A handwritten note you find in your bag?
- Finding out they kept something from your first date?
- A midday text telling you exactly what they want to do to you tonight?
- Your partner making the first move without you hinting?
- Catching them looking at you like they want you right now?
- A date somewhere neither of you has ever been?
- Learning something new together, badly, and laughing about it?
- Trying something in bed that neither of you has done before?
Your questions, answered.
Is this the official Love Languages test?
No. This is an original seven-dimension framework and has no affiliation with that brand.
Does it measure giving as well as receiving?
This launch version measures receiving. A separate giving-mode questionnaire is not included.
Can my top language change?
Yes. Preferences and needs can change across relationships and circumstances.
For what gets you in the mood, take the Sexual Personality Test. For two partners’ preferences around frequency, pace and making the first move, try the couples compatibility quiz.
Reflection and entertainment, not a diagnosis. How our quizzes work. Updated 7 October 2026.